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Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 7:55:27 AM

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What subs/slaves here solely to please their Masters and get nothing in return? As in, the Doms never go down on them or give them orgasm, at least on any kind of regular basis unless the mood may just strike.

What slaves blow their Masters everyday and never get eaten out as an example? What slaves love the set up?

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 8:41:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: MojoRisin

What subs/slaves here solely to please their Masters and get nothing in return? As in, the Doms never go down on them or give them orgasm, at least on any kind of regular basis unless the mood may just strike.

What slaves blow their Masters everyday and never get eaten out as an example? What slaves love the set up?

I get plenty of physical pleasure in my relationship. Its on his schedule, but I would not say that my libido is ignored (since we both have pretty healthy libidos). I can't say I keep track of who orgasms when or where or how many times.

In your example though I'm not hugely into oral sex, I think to some degree because I very rarely get it (maybe on average about once a year or so). But its not a big deal to me, because like I said I am happy with the amount and type of physical pleasure I get, and I oral sex is just one of many ways to enjoy sex.

I do however give him a shitload of blow jobs, but I really really enjoy doing it.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 8:51:53 AM

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Why do some people equate Master/slave relationships as primarily about sex?

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 8:54:04 AM

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Why do some people equate Master/slave relationships as primarily about sex?

Now that I think about it, that is good for another topic.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 9:35:53 AM

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Why do some people equate Master/slave relationships as primarily about sex?

Exactly. I can not understand that belief either. It's not ALL about sex. From my perspective ( and meaning only what I get from it ) its about serving another, doing my best to please HIM...and in doing so, I, in return, am pleased. Sex is ok, and it's nice as a sideline, but it does not constitute the relationship.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 11:13:57 AM

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What subs/slaves here solely to please their Masters and get nothing in return?
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i am guessing by your wording..it is the sex question.?

if so...forget this posting and move past..stop reading NOW! and i mean RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!

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but IF?
just IF now? ya MAY include...to please without return COMPLETELY?????/
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i am JUST service...no s/m no sex.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 11:24:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: Elegant

Why do some people equate Master/slave relationships as primarily about sex?

Now that I think about it, that is good for another topic.

I think that would be a good thread. I didn't interpret the question as equating a dynamic with being about sex, but maybe theres a context that I'm missing.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 11:28:04 AM

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What subs/slaves here solely to please their Masters and get nothing in return?

I am not a sub or a slave, but I will answer this from my perspective.

If I would look at this from a sexual perspective....I never leave him unsatisfied in one way or another. Either he releases emotionally....or otherwise.

If I look at this in a non sexual way...Anytime that he does something that pleases me I give him something in return. It may be something small like a word of encouragement or praise or I may reward him with something much larger depending on how pleased I am or how hard he worked for me.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/3/2005 11:38:36 AM

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Why do some people equate Master/slave relationships as primarily about sex?

I think mostly because for many they equate M/s under the BDSM umbrella which when most people see that or hear that..it is automatically linked to fetishes, kinks, taboo's..sex.

Hope more of these types of threads do pop up though for the M/s to respond in kind as most are doing here.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/4/2005 2:13:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MojoRisin

What subs/slaves here solely to please their Masters and get nothing in return? As in, the Doms never go down on them or give them orgasm, at least on any kind of regular basis unless the mood may just strike.

What slaves blow their Masters everyday and never get eaten out as an example? What slaves love the set up?

I am not a sub/slave, but I would like to address this first question. I can't imagine being in any kind of relationship, D/s or otherwise, and not get anything in return from it. What would be the point? My sub gets a great deal of satisfaction just seeing Me smile. To him, that may be his emotional return. To him, that may be enough.

Now you are talking about sex. I get a great deal of satisfaction kissing, touching, sucking, squeezing and carressing My sub. Do I demand that they perform on Me? You bet, if the mood to do that is there, does he do it? Of course. Part of his satisfaction or his "return" is seeing that I am satisfied.

But I dont believe that bdsm is all about sex. I dont believe that servitude is all about sex. Sex is a very small part of it. Yes, I enjoy playing as well as the next person, but I also enjoy watching My subs face as he happily rubs My feet, or takes out My trash. He is happy to do these things because it makes his "Mistress smile". Isnt that reward enough? My sub thinks it is.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/4/2005 6:32:43 PM

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/4/2005 7:40:35 PM

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well that's pretty crude, might have been better to word it in a different format...

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/15/2005 1:57:58 PM

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greetings, mojo risen
happy hollidays
must be a "slave thing" but,
of course a slave never gets it ,thats submissive for a top to go down ,but sometimes i get so turned on anyway; its sort of torture to get blown ,cause a tounge even touching it ,only makes me burn purple and, die comin', too quick, SO IT HURTS; DONT BLOW ME KINDA' THING ,so some do ,just to hurt me another way....
but absolutely not!
a top never does do the shimmy on a slaves' private parts.
i cant come to a bottom
get off your knees ;snap out of it ;pull yourself together; whats wrong with you; let me help you up; oh my gaud KINDA' thing........and otherwise i love THAT ARRANGEMENT
WOULD YOU EXPECT THE QUEEN OF LONDON OR YOUR MOM TO GO DOWN ON YOU
GOD MAN YOU GOTTA KNOW YOUR PLACE
everything else is PRESSURE ANYWAY
TO PERFORM OR JUST
OH ANOTHER BLOW ME
PRESSURE
(DONT HAVE TO TELL YOU WHAT GENIUS GOT PLAGIaRIZED, FOR, THAT NUMBER ONE SONG CALLED: PRESSURE DO I...SOME REAL SLAVESINGER,FOR THE MOB)
IF I WANTED A BLOW ME JOB; i dont need someone held high up in top land to go down on me
dont be rediciulous
it never passes my mind ,and its a dime a dozen anyway!
certainly dont need to ruin my image and a tops image ,to get a bj anyplace
take a vanila pill ;a hot bath ;and chill; forget a top, if you gotta' have your bj's.

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RE: Just about the one? - 12/15/2005 2:59:26 PM

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I believe some Doms and Masters get really turned on by being pleased and not having to please the other person in return. I have met one Dom who felt this way. My reaction is that at times it sucked but sex is easy to find so I was seeing him for the Dom/Sub experience and not the sex. I was there so he could control me and I could be controled. Could I marry such a person.. NO WAY! unless school pays off and I can start buying batteries in the bulk :) teehee

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