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Is this weird? - 2/22/2006 11:01:37 AM

MistressRothe

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I am Mistress Rothe, and although I am a Mistress I am also a slave. I guess that would be what most would call a switch. However I am slave to Master C and Mistress to all other subs. Master C only have one slave and I am her. I have many subs.

Here's where it gets wierd. I am not permited to have any sexual relations with my subs at any time. Subs still flock to me. I am trying to find sister subs out there so that I may satisfy my male sub's sexual desires. They have been good boys so far. Why is this so difficult?

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/22/2006 11:03:58 AM

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Cuz life is difficult?

Cuz competition for females in poly/multiple relationships is pretty darn fierce?

Could be other reasons.

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/22/2006 11:23:49 AM

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Thanks hun, appreciate the sarcasm

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/22/2006 12:10:20 PM

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Honestly, most people don't think of becoming involved in a poly household when they're thinking about getting involved in a relationship. For a lot of people, the idea squicks them more than a little bit, and for another group, they've got their hearts set on a monogamous relationship, so they don't even look at options that don't include a one-on-one dynamic.

For those who -are- seeking poly, even then your situation is unusual, and it might take a while for someone to get used to the idea of what you're proposing. Most people thinking of D/s poly seem to think that poly is mostly one man with two female servants. Permutations different than that and/or larger than that might overwhelm some folks. Something slightly larger than a nuclear family seems ok -- talking "tribe" gets to be too much for easy translation.

Make yourself known, and have your voice heard in a variety of places. Get to know people in your local scene. Make your profile expressive of what you're looking for. It will take time. This is a complex arrangement you're talking about here (and this is coming from a person who thoroughly understands complex arrangements...). It took us 5 years to find our current servant (and 3 years to finally find a woman --no men interested yet -- interested in taking a position as a novitiate priest-in-training with the abbey here).

Patience will definitely serve you well, even if you're strictly looking for a sexual playmate for one or more of your male servants, and not worried about a long-term relationship. (If you -are- looking for someone long-term, you can expect it to take even longer, but you won't have to search as often -- everything is a trade-off.)

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Here's where it gets wierd. I am not permited to have any sexual relations with my subs at any time. Subs still flock to me. I am trying to find sister subs out there so that I may satisfy my male sub's sexual desires. They have been good boys so far. Why is this so difficult?

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/22/2006 5:14:00 PM

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LuckyAlbatross wrote:

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Cuz life is difficult?
Cuz competition for females in poly/multiple relationships is pretty darn fierce?
Could be other reasons.

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ORIGINAL: MistressRothe
Thanks hun, appreciate the sarcasm

Actually, it could be sarcasm... or not. It's still the truth.

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/24/2006 6:02:01 PM

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I'm thinking that part of the problem is likely that the dynamic you describe that you are in. Trying to fathom this is perhaps beyond comprehension, slave and Mistress (and to "all" other subs even)? This goes against most definitions. Even though it's rare that a group discussing slave versus sub definitions will agree on the terminology, I imagine that most people would have difficult time believing a "slave" could have any subs, little alone many. A submissive might pull this off under the banner of a switch, but a slave...that simply doesn't register? I suspect this may be why you are having difficulties finding volunteers...maybe a bit too wierd on top of the aforementioned fact that there really is a sparce offering of females with the mindset for a poly relationship in the first place.

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/24/2006 6:49:42 PM

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I would agree that most people wouldn't think of this situation first when they thought of someone who identified as a slave, but it isn't as unusual as it might sound at first blush, I think.

When our household was in full swing, our Chatellaine (first servant) was responsible for all the other servants in the household, but was, herself, an owned servant, fully dedicated to the Owners of the household. She, in turn, was addressed as "mistress" or "Miss" by the other servants, and everything went through her. She was also the last word in bringing in new servants, since if she determined that they were "untrainable", the Owners' general philosophy was that they truly -were- untrainable and not worth their time -- only if she couldn't deal with it was it brought to a "higher authority", much in the same way that a chatellaine or butler manages everyone below-stairs in a large household.

Over years and years, I've discovered that it is unlikely that there is -anything- that "doesn't exist" in this very diverse group of lifestyle preferences. The problem is often finding the right person, who understands and can accept the implications.

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I imagine that most people would have difficult time believing a "slave" could have any subs, little alone many. A submissive might pull this off under the banner of a switch, but a slave...that simply doesn't register? I suspect this may be why you are having difficulties finding volunteers...maybe a bit too wierd on top of the aforementioned fact that there really is a sparce offering of females with the mindset for a poly relationship in the first place.

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/28/2006 5:19:17 PM

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Personally, I'm putting my money on El Nino'.

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RE: Is this weird? - 2/28/2006 7:54:51 PM

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This is of course only my opinion.I have been a domme for 20 years now.
I agree with the slave thing.A slave is almost in a rank of its own actually.
A slave is only property to us.They own nothing at all.We tell them how and when to live ,if you will.Because its the choice of a true slave.A slave completely surrenders ALL of themselves and ALL they have.I grant you
its usually because that person just does'nt want to handle life, truth be known,However its the way things are for slaves.They live and breath to make One Owner happy and have an easier life.That does not sound like a submissive to me nor any other rank.So before attaching SLAVE to your name....please be sure of your hoped for rank.I would say the majority here may be subs.
As for being Dom and sub?? Dear how do you obey yourself?Yes this is all weird as you ask.Your either a leader or your a follower.There are no straddlers on my fence.Good luck and be safe!

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RE: Is this weird? - 3/1/2006 1:00:38 AM

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*NaturesTreasure gets glared at by every switch on the board*

Natural middle management.

Rothe, I think if your Master wants to put you out as girl bait, perhaps he should allow you to lift your restraints when it comes to girls. That would make first contact easier, and then, you can slowly reel your newcaught upto sister level, pleasing your master, and having established a pecking order, and so avoid the possible jealousy trap that these things can so often spring.

J

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RE: Is this weird? - 3/1/2006 2:48:10 PM

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I guess that I am confused. Your profile states that you currently only have one sub in your service, but you also continually use the term "subs" in both your profile and post. So, my question, which is it? Singular or plural? The answer to that will effect my answer to your question.

If it is plural, what you are really wanting to do is bring in a "fu** buddy" for your male (plural) subs. If singular, you are looking at an almost, dare I say it, "partner" for your male sub.

So what is it that you are really looking for?

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RE: Is this weird? - 3/1/2006 8:19:18 PM

LuvSponge

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ORIGINAL: NaturesTreasure

So before attaching SLAVE to your name....please be sure of your hoped for rank.I would say the majority here may be subs.
As for being Dom and sub?? Dear how do you obey yourself?Yes this is all weird as you ask.Your either a leader or your a follower.There are no straddlers on my fence.Good luck and be safe!

Huh?

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RE: Is this weird? - 3/6/2006 2:36:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressRothe
I am trying to find sister subs out there so that I may satisfy my male sub's sexual desires. They have been good boys so far. Why is this so difficult?

Perhaps because its so dysfuntional? Not to be bitchy... but why are you so worried about satisfying your male sub's sexual desires?!? While nice, its not overly necessary. And if it creates such bizarre conflict and trouble, perhaps you should free them of their bond to you, and take your profile off of an internet BDSM personals site and just attend to your Master- thus avoid the painful flock of subbie boys hunting you down. It seems if your master doesn't want you to have a sexual relationship with submissives you should just go ahead and commit to being a slave yourself only.

That is what I would do.

Good luck.

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