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Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/3/2005 10:24:58 AM

LadyElizabeth

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After reading "Why is it so hard to find poly?" I thought that maybe what I'm looking for is un-attainable or just unrealistic.

I'm a bi switch who wishes to find a Domme to mentor me and dominate me. I seek to learn, but I also have a yurning to be dominated by one or more women. But I am also dominant over my own slave (read; married to collared male). I believe in Female supremacy,(which has granted me the joy of learning all sorts of new colourful words from men who beg to differ. And even some women). So I would never submit to another man, even though I have had my slave tie me up and have his way with me. It was at my request and he did what I wanted, for my pleasure. I have no idea why I love both sides of the coin, i just do. I will only submit to a Domme with greater experience then myself. My Domme need not be "bi". My slave would be privy to, but not required be a participant.

I also seek a female slave. I would love to practice what I learn, why else would I educate myself in such things? She to would not neccessarily be rquired to be "bi". As my slaves Lady, it's pretty much all about me,lol. Although threesomes are fun. So it would be a plus.lol.

That said, those that I have chatted with, seem to find this an odd dynamic and really not interested in pursueing a relationship further then chat friends. Those that have stated that they are interested, I fear were posers, because they have just up and dissappeared without so much as a "see ya".

That leaves me with a sinking feeling that I to, much like MasterGreywolfe. May be searching in vain.

Is what I seek attainable? Are these unrealistic fantasies?

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/3/2005 10:55:35 AM

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Is what I seek attainable? Are these unrealistic fantasies?

Nothing that you truly want is -ever- unattainable. Just be prepared for a LOT of searching. We're in the same boat here. What we are isn't really a good fit for lots of folks. It meant a five year search to find our most recent girls (and we still haven't found a male submissive who is willing/able to be a good fit with us, but we're taking a pause from looking until both of our girls are comfy and settled... too much too fast is hard on everyone.)

You may spend a lot of time looking, so just enjoy the whole process. Don't let the failures make you bitter... you might miss out on an exceptional opportunity that doesn't look like exactly what you wanted but is even better if you are jaded and stop paying attention to every opportunity as having the potential for something extraordinary.

Don't be afraid to take pieces -- what you're looking for may not all come at the same time. Don't throw away -part- because you can't have -all- yet. Take advantage of opportunities that come up.

You are -really- clear about what you're looking for, and about what you're willing to give some space on. Just don't get discouraged... share your experience, talk to people, and everything will work itself out for you.

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/6/2005 2:04:34 PM

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It's a tall order, I'll say that. But not unattainable. Just very difficult. Not impossible. If you're willing to work at it. Cause the people you're looking for are out there. Looking for you just as hard as you're looking for them. Just help them to find you.

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/7/2005 2:36:05 PM

LadyElizabeth

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Would you have any suggestions on how to do that MasterRobert1?

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/8/2005 6:24:52 AM

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The relationship you seek is more than possible to find, but it will take careful selection and a chunk of luck.

It does sound like you have power/gender issues however. You want to feel supreme over males, and yet you like it when your male sub makes you feel helpless (as long as you are still maintaining that ultimate control). That denotes a lot of possible discoveries waiting inside you to be explored.

In the end of course, just be yourself and enjoy what you enjoy.

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/8/2005 7:51:40 AM

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Are these unrealistic fantasies?
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in one word............no.

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/9/2005 2:35:59 PM

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There is no easy way to accomplish what you ant to accomplish. Cokmes down to putting yourself in the right position to meet as many people of like mind as you can. Like collarme. I'd join a local munch, any of the BDSM D/s educational/support groups that are around. Go to lots of public and private (especially private) play parties. Takes time, patience, and just sloughing through all you'll have to slough through until you find the rigth combination. That's the hard part, not giving up when you've experienced disappointment along the way.

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RE: Is this a new twist on an old poly? - 12/10/2005 3:37:30 AM

LadyElizabeth

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Thank you very much guys, I appreciate the advice.

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