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Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 3:11:05 PM

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In a bdsm relationship, if a dominant goes down on a submissive orally, are they being subserviant or are they still in charge?

I will post my opinion on this later.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 3:54:43 PM

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In short -

Giving oral does not make one any less of a dominant. Though it makes a dominant more popular.....<g>

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 4:16:04 PM

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I already wrote a short bit on this on another thread, buuuuuut...

I am a Dominant. I like giving oral sex. Part of my interest in the BDSM power exchange type relatioship thingamajigwhatsitdo is that I enjoy seeing my partner fulfilled/happy/pleased etc, and that I was responsible for ensuring that could happen. If I want to give oral sex to a woman, then by all that is unholy and wrong, I will do just that. If I had to worry about if hundreds of online people think me less domly for it, then so be it.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 4:47:09 PM

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Dominance
the act of being
in charge of Ones
mind,body,soul
including Your Own.

What ever makes a
Dom/mes happy and
satisfied is a Dominant
act.
If it is commanding a slave
to kiss Your feet this is a
Dominant act
If it is giving a order for work
to be done at Your Business
this is a Dominant act
If it is commanding Yourself
to takes the sweet nector of
a slave whom You adore
this is a Dominant act

OK now I wanna Dominate
sumthing orally damn
Dark did You have to ask
such a question and get
My Mind all in a Dominant
tizzy? Moves from the
computer and heads for
the freezer for that orange
popsicle thats just been
waiting for My Dominant
tongue to tackle it!!

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 4:55:14 PM

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lol Dread, I was just thinking of the sherbert in the freezer... ;)

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 5:07:02 PM

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I have never heard of a domme that actually could not get enough of that sort. I'm sure one exists somewhere but i won't waste my time lookinbg for her.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 5:41:00 PM

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puckers up and sticks out
My tongue and shows off a well
deserved ORANGE orifice and
thinks of a Dominated treat to
the end yum yum Mod3
thats good stuff to Dominant
too!!

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 6:19:35 PM

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I love giving oral to my sub. I love the way he begs for more when I tease and torment him.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 6:23:55 PM

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Is giving oral domly? According to mine it is, as a time when he has perfect control over me.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 6:36:37 PM

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I enjoy it, so I do it; that is what I do, what I want when I want to,

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 6:57:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkQuin
In a bdsm relationship, if a dominant goes down on a submissive orally, are they being subserviant or are they still in charge?

In a BDSM relationship, anything the dominant does to the sub/slave is done with the dominant being in charge, including oral sex. As a male dominant, I enjoy going down on a multi-orgasmic female sub/slave. She is at my mercy, and will orgasm until I wish for her to stop. Having her spread before me, with or without cuffs, spreader bars, or suspension... or simply as a measure to please me, my partaking of her body in any manner I wish does not take anything away from my dominance whatsoever.

If the dominant uses the sub/slave in any sexual manner for their pleasure, I do not see how it can be perceived as subserviant, or not being in charge. If the dominant has to say please, then there may be a problem in their dominance?

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 8:24:13 PM

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Is the Dom giving....or is he taking? You can look at it from the point of view that the Dom is taking what he wants, or owns, from the submissive - her orgasm. In this perspective, then the Dom is being quite domly, indeed.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/16/2004 11:56:10 PM

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I do what I do because I feel like doing it.

Im do not care how others choose to label my actions. ;)

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/17/2004 5:14:14 AM

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short answer - yes

for expanded reply see "How Often do You Give Oral" thread

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/25/2004 3:55:24 PM

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As long as you get pleasure from it, it really shouldn't matter. It can be a very erotic thing with a bit of work. Yuo can strap her down to the bed or table, having her totally open to your desires, then torment and tease her till she's begging you to either cum or take her and then you can tell her yes or no depending on your mood.

Just a little tidbit, give your sub a bit of oral, wash up and then go to dinner, by the time the two of you get back she will be totally wet and ready to do whatever you want with anticipation and enthusiasm.

Another Sadistic Bastard,

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/25/2004 10:26:48 PM

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Actually, a Dom giving oral to a guy is probably not domly.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/26/2004 12:28:24 AM

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It is too if they are both gay or bi.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/26/2004 6:29:25 PM

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It is too if they are both gay or bi.

'specially if you have nailed his scrotum to a two-by-four<eg>.

There's a term for Dom's who don't go down-

LONELY.

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RE: Is giving oral domly? - 5/26/2004 6:39:01 PM

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