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I have a question - 1/6/2006 10:33:26 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Maybe I'm in the wrong place, or just reading the wrong post...it seems that most of the post I have read here seem to be concerning people who are in an open relationship, and I see nothing wrong with that, but that is not what I am in....I live as the Master of a poly house....meaning I have more than one slave......my slaves do not play outside the family, unless it is one of those times when I allow a respected friend to enjoy the wonder of one of my slaves....I seldom play outside the family either, although my slaves understand that I can if I chose, why would I need to, hell, I have a hard enough time keeping up with my own LOL.......now the question.....am I alone here, or are there others that live as I do?
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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 8:46:35 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Open poly Ds relationships are the minority compared to closed poly Ds relationships.

Whether a relationship is open or closed has nothing to do with whether is it poly or Ds. Theya re all different aspects independent of eachother

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 6:46:54 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		You aren't alone there Darkside... we are a two dominant poly household. We currently have a male here with the prospect of a female joining us in the future.

Jewel

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 7:26:03 PM   
Petruchio


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Status: offline 		You're polyam, that's the definition.

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 8:03:33 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		LOL, one of the draw backs of living as i do for so long without the wonderful world of the net, I am not knowledgeable about many of the terms that are used, what does polyam mean?

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 8:33:39 PM   
Petruchio


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what does polyam mean?


Polyamorous = "love many" literally.

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 9:48:45 PM   
Morghan


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Status: offline 		You're certainly not alone. There are as many permutations of poly lifestyles as there are people who do it. The essence of poly is indeed 'many loves'. But more important it is based on communication. In the case of a D/s arrangement you have clear delination of roles. You know who's the boss at all times, and what the rules are for interaction.

It is possible to 'cheat' in a poly relationship, all you have to do is break the rules. I point this out because many confuse poly with sluttiness. I don't think thats any kind of issue here, but its a pet peeve I have to share.

At any rate, what you're doing is what I would call poly-fidelitous. Poly = many and fidelitous=a committed relationship. Thats different from an actively poly couple who may have any number of other lovers or partners come and go throughout the relationship.

This is still another step removed from 'swinging' where there is no real emotional bond involved. I've no problem with any of these variations but I do so like to point out the differences. Having common terminology allows us all to communicate effectively, which in turn prevents heartache and drama.

I hope that was informative, its one of my favorite topics.

~Morghan

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 10:59:26 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Duh...thanks....so, ok, I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed LOL

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RE: I have a question - 1/7/2006 11:02:31 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Thank you...and well said....my family is what it is, glad to know there is an actual term for it and that there are more like us.

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RE: I have a question - 1/8/2006 10:33:16 AM   
SweetDommes


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ORIGINAL: SirDarkside357

Thank you...and well said....my family is what it is, glad to know there is an actual term for it and that there are more like us.



Oh, there are lots of other families like yours - like with ShiftedJewel, our household has two dominants and we already have two submissives. There is no play outside of the family, so we are not open - but with four people in one bed each night, we are definitely poly.

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RE: I have a question - 1/8/2006 11:19:34 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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but with four people in one bed each night, we are definitely poly.


Oh I could never have that many people in the same bed! Aside from the fact that my hot flashes would kill them all.... I have to have room... covers on.... covers off... covers on.... covers off... hell, I've even been known to turn the a/c on in my sleep and yes, it's winter here too... pity Scooter, he puts up with so much... lol

Jewel

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RE: I have a question - 1/9/2006 10:59:42 AM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

quote:

but with four people in one bed each night, we are definitely poly.


Oh I could never have that many people in the same bed! Aside from the fact that my hot flashes would kill them all.... I have to have room... covers on.... covers off... covers on.... covers off... hell, I've even been known to turn the a/c on in my sleep and yes, it's winter here too... pity Scooter, he puts up with so much... lol

Jewel


Heh, Holly is like that with the space, and she and rob keep the house set on "arctic" year round ... which is why the corporal HAS to sleep in the bed with me - he's how I keep from shivering to death. Oh yeah, the blanket issue ... we all have separate blankets, except for the corporal - he has to share mine LOL

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RE: I have a question - 1/16/2006 12:39:11 PM   
MistressDREAD


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MY Poly M/s Home was closed Gorean and
a Dominant Triad with 16 posessions
between Us in TPE L/T for 27/16 years.
Two of the Three Dominants have
passed away. And I now activly seek
Dominant replacements and am open
till such time as these positions are filled.
I never dreamed My Poly Home would
ever be opened up nor changed, but
life and its challenges make it so.
We are around and likeminded Darkside357.



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RE: I have a question - 1/17/2006 7:43:07 AM   
MistressPanther


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Status: offline 		My Husband and I are also in a poly but still seeking a lil one to join us but we come with entertaining twists we wish one to share with us but it seems to be difficult to find a pet who would be happy with a life of travel since both of Us are Dominate and also professional truck drivers....

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RE: I have a question - 1/21/2006 12:12:12 PM   
ChereeAmoor


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Status: offline 		Same setup here - polyfidelity is the name of the game. My two Doms know they can do whatever they like, but say they would never consider loaning me out. I am of the "never say never" school of thought, personally. I love being their sub, and this is what is right for us. That being said, whatever configuration works for other people is fine by me - I have found this, or rather, we all 3 have found each other, and are concentrating mostly on the Happily Ever After aspect of life.

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RE: I have a question - 2/10/2006 12:46:53 PM   
HouseofBacchus


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Status: offline 		Poly is a way of life for people all over this globe. It is not new nor is it old fasioned, it just is.....

Bacchus

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RE: I have a question - 2/14/2006 9:36:34 AM   
MsPurrmeow


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Status: offline 		We have a very long-term polyfi family here. mFm No outside screwing around, but we are open to add a new person if it happens right.

You are most definitely NOT alone in having a closed family. Thing is, not everyone checks the Boards regularly, so it's tough to get a complete Roll Call going.

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RE: I have a question - 2/14/2006 9:28:02 PM   
SabrinaRising


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Status: offline 		We have a slightly open family one could say. I guess, I am not quite sure the distinction being made here.
My husband has girls, I have boys. And we have each other...snicker.

I think we both are open to new ideas..but for the most part seem to center ourselves around a finite group.

Sabrina

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RE: I have a question - 2/15/2006 6:00:10 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SabrinaRising

We have a slightly open family one could say. I guess, I am not quite sure the distinction being made here.
My husband has girls, I have boys. And we have each other...snicker.

I think we both are open to new ideas..but for the most part seem to center ourselves around a finite group.

Sabrina

Open usually means free to seek new partners or add people, on an "satellite relationships" basis or as part of the group.

Closed usually means a fixed group of people, either not open to any new partners, or new people will be brought in very rarely and with everyone's agreement.


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