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How to define - 1/8/2006 7:54:53 PM

MasterNlittle1

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What seems simple to me and my little one does not seem to have a simple definition.

I am with my wife, my 24/7 love of my life. Awhile back she came out to me as bi-sexual. The more we have built trust and cummunication between us the more herself she has become as well as diving into the lifestyle with more enthusiasm to serve then any other sub I have had under me.

I have never had jelous feelings with the thought of her having another submissive in the home. There is a twist to this however. My wife does not want to be a sister submissive to this person she wants to Dominate her 24/7

I have made it clear to her delight that she may never remove my collar for any reason and will still always be available to me.

So here is what we are looking for, if there is a classification I would love to hear about it as well as opinons

I am master of of my home;
I really have no interest in having sex with another woman but have always enjoyed sceneing with two women. (Fun to top two at once in the bedroom)
She wants more than anything her own pet, and for me to mentor her in the training and care of her.
She wants to maintain her submission to me while dominating another.

EXAMPLES

I expect my home clean and do a white glove inspection at my own whim,
If I find dust, my wife will be punished. if she gave this chore to her pet then that is her decision on how to handle that situation.

Another example,
I will expect the secondary to be the server at dinners etc, times when I want my wife at my side.

The slave will have her own bedroom. and only sleep in our room when I deem or if my wife asks me of it as a reward.

Ok, so flame away, opionionate away. I am very interested in what everyone thinks about this type of relationship.

I have discussed this with my wife at length and honestly the prospects excite me and her. We have even made our list for negotiations and I have agreed when I have time to help her train the secondary in the areas of etiquette I expect in my home.

AS I said in the beginning what seems so simple to me and her I just cannot define. We have found sevral women that we are talking to and getting close to negoatiations with one.

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RE: How to define - 1/8/2006 7:58:05 PM

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I think it sounds lovely. Why do you need to define it? If it works for you, her and the other girl then go for it.

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RE: How to define - 1/8/2006 8:44:27 PM

theRose4U

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closest label for her that I can come up with would be a switch. Congrats for coming up with a solution to the switching within poly discussion on the boards lately that actually appears to be entered into with some forethought and discussion.

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RE: How to define - 1/8/2006 8:54:13 PM

MasterNlittle1

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Thanks for the encouragment.
She doesnt like the word switch (i called her that once lol it was amusing to see her face) She can never see herself topping a male, or in anyway ever desiring to top me.

I still think it makes her a switch :)

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RE: How to define - 1/9/2006 1:41:05 AM

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quote:

She can never see herself topping a male, or in anyway ever desiring to top me.

I thought a switch was someone who Tops and bottoms. As far as i know, to be a swtich doesn't mean you have to Top or bottom both men and women. As was said on another topic, a switch can be the submissive/slave in a TPE relationship with one person, and also be the Dominant in an entirely different relationship.

Perhaps she would be more comfortable in referring to herself as a sub/Switch.

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RE: How to define - 1/9/2006 7:00:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint379
I thought a switch was someone who Tops and bottoms. As far as i know, to be a swtich doesn't mean you have to Top or bottom both men and women. As was said on another topic, a switch can be the submissive/slave in a TPE relationship with one person, and also be the Dominant in an entirely different relationship.

Perhaps she would be more comfortable in referring to herself as a sub/Switch.

Switch is a very fluid term. I am a slave and a top, but I don't consider myself a switch. Take what works for you.

As far as the relationship- go for it, good luck, be stable.

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