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Have you.. - 1/29/2005 11:22:33 PM

Jeshy

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Have you ever had the urge where you just have to be dominated?

I can't go a week without someone dominating me. I get these really bad urges where it has to happen or else I get really destructive, in a way.

It's like sex. Only I can live without sex, I can't live without being dominated by someone.

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RE: Have you.. - 1/30/2005 4:53:47 AM

Suleiman

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GET BACK TO WORK, YOU!

(just kidding, of course, but hey. It's incredibly late, once again I don't expect to see my bed before sunrise, and I do tend to get a little bit silly from sleep deprivation)

I find that, while I may not be able to go a week without someone attempting to dominate me, I do not take kindly to the attempt. I turn incredibly servile when someone I like is around for me to fuss over, but total strangers can bite my cellulite-riddled caucazoid tuchus, for all I care.

Then again, I do wear the label of switch for a reason, I suppose.

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RE: Have you.. - 1/30/2005 5:22:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeshy

Have you ever had the urge where you just have to be dominated?

I can't go a week without someone dominating me. I get these really bad urges where it has to happen or else I get really destructive, in a way.

It's like sex. Only I can live without sex, I can't live without being dominated by someone.

Well, in an ideal world we'd all have someone to call upon when the urge strikes.. Unfortunately, we don't live in an ideal world.

Find something contstructive to do with yourself when it gets to the point where you feel destructive. Join a group or two to have a place to vent your frustrations.

First and foremost you should keep control of yourself.. If you can't control yourself then how do you expect to give up that control to someone else?

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RE: Have you.. - 1/30/2005 7:20:23 PM

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I think it would depend on your definition of domination. Your boss dominates you on a daily basis. We all have bosses. Even if we own our own companies. We still have customers.

Our parents. Our partners. Our children in some cases even.

So, is domination about play? Or part of daily life? I believe most of us in the world can take charge when needed. Not to say we all like it. I do believe we can if pushed.

For me being a submissive, it is almost like my other half. The half that balances me out.

So, to be happy in life. I do need my dom to make certain decisions for me.

Hopefully I didn't ramble too much.

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RE: Have you.. - 1/31/2005 7:45:29 AM

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but total strangers can bite my cellulite-riddled caucazoid tuchus, for all I care.

Thanks Suleiman . . . for the laugh your statement gave me.

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I believe most of us in the world can take charge when needed. Not to say we all like it. I do believe we can if pushed.

For me being a submissive, it is almost like my other half. The half that balances me out.

So, to be happy in life. I do need my dom to make certain decisions for me.

I highly agree with Gloria.

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RE: Have you.. - 1/31/2005 11:03:42 AM

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quote:

I can't go a week without someone dominating me. I get these really bad urges where it has to happen or else I get really destructive, in a way.

Fantacizing while masturbating helps a lot. When i first learned about this lifestyle i did that a lot.

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RE: Have you.. - 1/31/2005 6:00:50 PM

Jeshy

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quote:

First and foremost you should keep control of yourself.. If you can't control yourself then how do you expect to give up that control to someone else?

Hmmm. That's true.

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I think it would depend on your definition of domination. Your boss dominates you on a daily basis. We all have bosses. Even if we own our own companies. We still have customers.

I never thought about it like that.

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Fantacizing while masturbating helps a lot. When i first learned about this lifestyle i did that a lot.

Hehe. I've tried that a lot actually. But the older I get, the harder it is for me to control the craving.

I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm an emotional masochist. I crave it like I crave food sometimes.

I don't know how to explain it.

Thanks everyone for the advice!

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RE: Have you.. - 1/31/2005 6:26:29 PM

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Maybe it's because I'm an emotional masochist. I crave it like I crave food sometimes.

I don't know how to explain it.

Midear Jeshy-

Do you mean a masochist who is emotional, or that you seek emotional pain? come on- try to explain it...

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RE: Have you.. - 2/1/2005 3:49:12 AM

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(uncharacteristically giggling like a schoolboy) Uh-oh... I think you got his attention...

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RE: Have you.. - 2/1/2005 11:06:19 AM

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Urge to be dominated? How about a "predicament!?" Master and I leave in a few days for our cruise. Got all my bikinis packed!

He handed me over to a Mistress this past weekend, and let her know that while I was available for "play", markings had to be at an absolute minimum because of our trip. Mistress warmed me nicely and then chained me to the cross. She then enthusiastically played with her full-time sub.. all the while I am blindfolded and chained to the cross... listening.... wanting... Master was there, and aside from a few thuddy strokes, all I received was a tantilizing feather stroked over me.

Talk about an urge. I would have whipped myself if they'd given me the chance!

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RE: Have you.. - 2/1/2005 5:11:59 PM

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and aside from a few thuddy strokes, all I received was a tantilizing feather stroked over me.

That must of been pure torture.

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RE: Have you.. - 2/2/2005 3:48:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeshy

Have you ever had the urge where you just have to be dominated?

I can't go a week without someone dominating me. I get these really bad urges where it has to happen or else I get really destructive, in a way.

It's like sex. Only I can live without sex, I can't live without being dominated by someone.

For me, i think it's more like,"i can't live and ignore my need to submit." When life makes an ideal situation not possible, i find i vent my frustrations through different means. Any means that help me stay connected to who i am. How i do this often changes from day to day, and it's not a permanent solution but more of a quick fix to my yourning. It may sound a little childish but it's important i do so to keep me mentally healthy.

Clear as mud?

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RE: Have you.. - 2/3/2005 6:41:30 AM

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You hit the nail on the head for me . there are urges but they dont come in spurts they come from meeting someOne that brings out the submissive side of me . i dont feel the need to submit to just anyone just for the feeling of being dominated. in fact it pisses me off .

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RE: Have you.. - 2/3/2005 1:16:34 PM

Jeshy

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quote:

Do you mean a masochist who is emotional, or that you seek emotional pain? come on- try to explain it...

I'm a masochist who seeks emotional pain.

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For me, i think it's more like,"i can't live and ignore my need to submit." When life makes an ideal situation not possible, i find i vent my frustrations through different means. Any means that help me stay connected to who i am. How i do this often changes from day to day, and it's not a permanent solution but more of a quick fix to my yourning. It may sound a little childish but it's important i do so to keep me mentally healthy.

Yes! That's exactly how I feel. Thanks for putting it in such perfect words! Yay!

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