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A submissive's Bill of Rights
You have the right to be treated with
respect. Not only do you
have this right, you have the right to
demand it. Being
submissive does not make you a doormat or
less of a person
than anyone else. The word "submissive"
describes your nature
and in no way diminishes you as a human
being. You have the
right to respect yourself as well.
You have the right to be proud of what
you are. Being a
submissive is nothing that should ever
bring you shame or
feelings of reproach. Your submissive
nature is a gift and
should always be a source of pride and
happiness.
You have the right to feel safe. Being a
submissive should not
make you feel afraid, insecure or
threatened. Submission is
not about living on the edge or flirting
with fear. In any
situation you should feel safe or there
can never be true surrender.
You have the right to your emotions and
feelings. Your
emotions and feelings come from you and
they are just as valid
as anyone else's. You have a right to
them. Those feelings,
whether positive or negative, make you
who you are and
suppressing them will only bring
unhappiness later.
You have the right to express your
negative feelings. Being
submissive does not make you an object
that no longer has
negative thoughts or concerns.Your
concerns are real and you
have every right to express them. If
something doesn't feel
right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or
you just plain don't
like something, say so. Failing to
express your negative
feelings could give the mistaken
impression that you are
pleased or satisfied with something that
is not pleasurable or agreeable.
You have the right to say NO. Being
submissive does not take
away your right to have dislikes or
negative feelings about
things. If something is happening or
about to happen that you
feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty
to speak up.
Remember, failing to communicate the word
NO is the same as saying YES.
You have the right to expect happiness in
life. Being
submissive is not tantamount to being
miserable, suffering or
a life of despair. Your submission should
bring you joy, peace
and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then
something is wrong.
You have the right to have input in a
relationship. You are an
active partner in any relationship you
enter and have every
right to contribute to it. You are
submissive, not passive. A
relationship that doesn't include your
needs, thoughts, hopes
and desires is not one you should be in
to begin with. This
applies to friendships, partnerships and
D/s relationships.
You have the right to belong. Being
submissive greatly
involves the feeling of belonging. Many
submissives have
expressed that it was in discovering
their submissive nature
that they felt as through they "belonged"
for the first time
in their lives. You belong to the
lifestyle and will
eventually belong to the One. It's in
that relationship you
should find the final fulfillment
of "belonging" at last.
You have the right to be loved and to
love. Anyone who tells
you that love doesn't fit into a D/s
relationship has never
experienced the fulfillment of all it
truly can be.
Submissives are by nature loving and
needing of love and have
every right to expect this to be a part
of their lives. It
takes love to bring your submission into
full bloom, so don't settle for less.
You have the right to be healthy. Health
involves your
physical, mental and emotional well-
being. Any relationship,
D/s or otherwise, that causes you to
suffer physically,
mentally or emotionally, beyond your
limits, is abuse. There
is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s
relationship and
it's up to you to make sure those lines
are not crossed.
Being a submissive does not give anyone
the right to harm or
injure you in any way. The D/s community
will stand behind you
if you should encounter such a situation
but you are the one
who has to make them aware before they
can help.
You have the right to practice safe sex.
Not only is this a
right, it's a duty to yourself and others
you may come into
contact with at a later date. Sexually
transmitted diseases
have reached epidemic proportions and
must be a concern to any
sexually active person. Safe Sex is
something you have the
right to insist upon and protecting
yourself should never be
discouraged by anyone who really has your
best interests at heart.
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This was copied from a forum at Bondage.com, with permission by the woman who posted it.
Stay safe,
~rain~
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