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Emotions..... - 8/6/2005 4:12:15 AM

Slutsub

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tell me that its just not me......why is it that you look forward to something so much...as in time with your Master..everythings great things coudnt be more wonderful the hours or days pass........and then its time to leave..nothing bad has happened. He has as always been the best.....so why if everything is so wondeful...why..do i tear up..why do i cry when its time to go......is it because youve been in such a mind set and space for the days/hours that you are with Him as His..........that its like a drug?...is it like coming down from a high.........and does anyone no..........how to stop it....i hate it when i do that.
it passes after a day or two.....i just wish it didnt happen at all........anyone??..

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RE: Emotions..... - 8/6/2005 2:58:14 PM

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Is there anyway to make it stop? Figuring out what it is first, finding out if you can stop it, or maybe if you must just accept it as a part of the experience. Which is the part you probably didn't want to hear

i myself had three experiences with this. One was seperation anxiety being my issue, two was the leaving part needing validation reassurance many hugs

and three was my nervous system was fried, leading to a couple of days of some depression, needing rest and recouperation. Hope this helped. Sometimes i used to think of all the sub/slave that had no one in their life, that helped.

< Message edited by mossy -- 8/13/2005 6:23:17 AM >

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RE: Emotions..... - 8/8/2005 4:22:21 AM

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I know what you mean. Keep in mind, though, that a lot of times bottoming can be both physically, mentally, and emotionally stressful. At the natural end of anything that takes it out of you, you feel a bit deflated...like a balloon that's just been pricked with a pin. I know I still feel that way after a scene. Examine whether you're seriously psychologically hurt, and if not, roll with it. It can provide vital closure to an amazing weekend.

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RE: Emotions..... - 8/8/2005 7:21:33 AM

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Hello There,
One thing I've noticed is that days I play hard the next day I'm usually a little off as far as energy levels. I think the term is sub drop. It's a chemical reaction in your body where when you play it stimulates all these endorphins, and other body responses inside yourself, on a chemical level. It makes you all warm and fuzzy inside and gives you a natural high.
When play is over and those chemicals return to standard levels you actually come down off a hormone and chemical high. It leaves many sub/slaves a little blue and lethargic for a while.
Just recognize these are normal feelings and it helps you keep them in perspective.

I'd also like to say I wish I could be at my Masters feet 24/7 too. I always feel a little sad and miss him when we are apart too.

I try to remember absence makes the heart grow fonder and appreciate our time we do have more.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Emotions..... - 8/8/2005 7:35:08 AM

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I am extremely fortunate in that we all live together, my 2 Masters and myself, and I don't have to wait to see One or the Other. But the day after some intense stuff is a bit of a drag - lethargy is such a small word for what I feel. All I want to do is sleep, and I feel whiny, and I pout to myself that they could be a little more generous with aftercare! even when things were perfect.

The few times I have brought all of this (tired and crybaby-ish) up to Them, I have gotten grinned at and told, "Well, we will all just have to try again until we all get it 100% right! Practice makes perfect!"

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