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Deactivating Profile - 8/31/2004 7:27:28 PM   
anthrosub


Posts: 453
Joined: 6/2/2004
Status: offline 		Hello everyone,
i'm not sure where it's best to post this but thought here would be good so all will see it. i've met a Dominant and at Her request, i'm deactivating my profile until further notice. It's been wonderful meeting and speaking with many here and hopefully i will return soon to tell of a new beginning. Until then, take care and be well.

Sincerely,
anthrosub

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 8/31/2004 7:41:43 PM   
Alana


Posts: 27
Joined: 8/31/2004
From: Florida
Status: offline 		Good luck to you!!!

Alana

< Message edited by Alana -- 9/1/2004 5:44:08 AM >

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 8/31/2004 7:58:06 PM   
subbiejenn


Posts: 630
Joined: 7/12/2004
Status: offline 		awe thats great to hear!

good luck Anthrosub and hope to hear of your wonderful journey soon

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 8/31/2004 8:28:44 PM   
proudsub


Posts: 3896
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From: Washington
Status: offline 		Hope everything works out for you anthro, have fun.

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/1/2004 4:53:47 AM   
LadyAngelika


Posts: 3240
Joined: 7/4/2004
From: Montréal - Canada
Status: offline 		Hey anthro,

I'm so very glad to hear of your news but I'm sad to see you go. Hopefully you will return to us soon.

Angelika

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/1/2004 7:07:26 AM   
MistressDREAD


Posts: 2326
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		well lookie there the subbie who cried wolf just got his wheel oiled!!

you better check in when
its all said and done too,
cause sum of Us
actually worry about you.
play hard and work even
harder to please anthro.

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♥A Jaguar in My garage♥ ♥A Mink on My back♥
♥A few Lions in My bed♥ ♥A Jackass to pay for it all♥

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/1/2004 12:38:28 PM   
SentForu


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Joined: 3/23/2004
From: Middle Tennessee
Status: offline 		Congrats anthrosub. I hope it works out well for you. Also, looking forward to reading about much success in the future.

Myra

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 9:23:34 AM   
sub4hire


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quote:

'm not sure where it's best to post this but thought here would be good so all will see it. i've met a Dominant and at Her request, i'm deactivating my profile until further notice. It's been wonderful meeting and speaking with many here and hopefully i will return soon to tell of a new beginning. Until then, take care and be well.



Red Flag or just insecurity on the Dominants side?

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 9:44:04 AM   
EStrict


Posts: 730
Joined: 1/11/2004
Status: offline 		::laughing:: thanks Gloria, I was curious about that one myself. But then, I have never understood the need for isolation in any form as a *get to know* or *basic training* thing. Losing the right to chat or even use the computer as punishment is a different matter :)

Sandy

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 9:49:39 AM   
sub4hire


Posts: 3834
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		Well, either way it is a serious red flag to me. If the Dominant isn't secure enough in herself. How can she take control of the submissive?
If telling him he cannot chat to others. Isolating himself. Well, hey we have another slavemaster. Or worse, she allows him to live.

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 10:15:21 AM   
LadyBeckett


Posts: 830
Joined: 2/4/2004
From: Scotland/Tennessee
Status: offline 		I was curious about that also. Taking a break during training is one thing. Deactivating one's profile altogether is another matter entirely!

I just re-read Anthrosub's original post, and apparently he has just met this Domme. I'd give this a little more thought.

< Message edited by LadyBeckett -- 9/2/2004 10:17:47 AM >

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 11:52:58 AM   
EStrict


Posts: 730
Joined: 1/11/2004
Status: offline 		Well, I can't go that far without even knowing who the person is and their reasoning. I took a month long break from reading and posting (with a few exceptions), and a couple of years ago unsubbed from EVERY list I belonged to. Both at the request of Master. *If* online was my life, it could be considered he was isolating me. But, he has never suggested cutting me off from my family, for that matter, forced me to call my mother after not having spoken to her for close to 2 years because of her disaproval of my life choices.

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 1:51:26 PM   
sweetpleaser


Posts: 640
Joined: 8/5/2004
From: Florida
Status: offline 		I miss Anthrosub's posts already He was very enlightening. I hope he finds what he is looking for and comes back to us soon!!

Sincerely,
ann

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 3:04:50 PM   
anthrosub


Posts: 453
Joined: 6/2/2004
Status: offline 		Well, that was quick...i'm back.

"Learn to live, Live to learn" That's the first thing i saw engraved in the arch over the front door of my first school and i'll never forget it. Everyone is correct about the Red Flag issue. i should have known better but i guess i let my frustration at wanting a relationship get the upper hand. After virtually no email exchange and about 3 hours of phone conversation, i was asked to spend this Labor Day weekend with her as a "get to know" visit. BUT...this would also include engaging in D/s activities and we hardly know each other.

Perhaps others would have no problem with this but i have to have feelings for the person i'm going to offer my submission to first. Until that occurs, we are just two people getting to know each other just like any other relationship. This is paramount to me because the whole interaction would be hollow without it.

Another flag (for me) was that i asked for a photo and she doesn't have one. That's entirely valid but i'm not about to drive 200 miles to meet and spend three days together and potentially be put on the spot when i arrive at her doorstep. There was also the issue of having to quit my job (if we decided to pursue a relationship) and find something either in NYC or Philly which would require 2-3 hours of commuting each day which is ludicrous. In fact, that was the thing that got through and started me to thinking about what i was doing.

i have to laugh at Mistress Dread's comment about the squeaky wheel. i do hope i don't come across as the squeakiest wheel trying to get the grease!

i look forward to continuing my interaction here with everyone.

Sincerely,
anthrosub

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 3:25:18 PM   
sub4hire


Posts: 3834
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Status: offline 		Well I'm glad you came to your senses before anything bad happened to you. Welcome back as I do also enjoy your posts.
Hopefully you will in time find the person you are searching for. Just try and not sound so depserate and perhaps it will happen.

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 4:35:02 PM   
LadyBeckett


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From: Scotland/Tennessee
Status: offline 		I'm going to echo Gloria here. I too am glad you gave this more thought before jumping into it. Welcome back, anthrosub. Stay with us.

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"Submissive boys yearn to fall into their proper place, so that the rest of their life will." ~ Lady Beckett

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RE: Deactivating Profile - 9/2/2004 4:49:47 PM   
proudsub


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From: Washington
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quote:

Well, that was quick...i'm back.

Welcome back anthrosub, glad you recognized the red flags. I like the "squeaky wheel" thing, maybe i will nominate you for that LOL.

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