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Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 8:03:45 PM

elfinslave

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write now I would say that I am like a blank page.I as a slave would like to surprise my Master and get things ready for after we get into a\our new home with the 3 of us. I think my main question is will he pe pissed if I do? If not where car\n I start to go get info?

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 8:20:36 PM

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dearest elf,

I am happy for you. But this is hardly enough information and somewhat shall we say, out of round, to give a cogent reply to.

Wish you well,
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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 8:51:12 PM

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Ron,
What other information could I posssibly give you in order for you to give advice.

As far as our poly goes there is Master, amspankeddoll, and elfinslave.

We are going to be moving into our first home as in ownership of it and I thought it would be nice to have a collaring cermonie to which shows surrender to be expected in our new home.

Does that make any sense and do you have any ideas?

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 8:52:47 PM

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Perhaps, do your wives agree? Or however you call them, sisters? family?

Ron
edited because I can't spell.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 9:08:36 PM

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I think the idea of a "surprise collaring" is generally a bad one.

I can appreciate your intent, but a "surprise dinner and movie out" would be better placed.

Just because people are moving into together doesn't mean they are ready to be collared together, and I think for the slave to decide it's time to collar EVERYONE else in the relationship is just a smidge over exuberant.

BUT there's no reason you can't bring it up to the others in the relationship. It might not be a surprise then, but it would be better in the end and then they would know your feelings.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 9:15:06 PM

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EM2, what do you think about a card snuck up on all, when they walk in the door, or a simple simple gift, you know it has meaning, to her for sure, like what was talked earlier about the woman who was gonna be collared after 4 years.......... Certainly; some festive response is appropriate; what would you think would be tender and heartfelt for her to do, without adding stress to the relationship if she did it onesided like?

Curiously,
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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/16/2005 9:36:36 PM

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Ask him. You are asking complete strangers if your master will be pissed off. Does that seem healthy to you? Obviously you need to be asking him.

A collaring ceremony is about everyone involved. You do no great blessings to your relationship to try to make it one-sided. If you like surprises, make him a great dinner. Getting ahead of the rest of the "family" on this one isn't the way to show cohesiveness as a unit.

On the other hand, it doesn't hurt to do some research. Google "Collaring ceremonies" "commitment ceremonies" and read through lifestyle sites. Don't keep it a secret, though. Let them know what you are doing subtly. Also, don't get too much tied up in your head about the final outcome. Leave the big choices to you all together as a unit.

Good luck.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/17/2005 2:37:19 AM

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I reacted a little differently. It seems to me she is wanting to be the center of attention. This is a BAD idea. If one of mine tried it, she would be the center of attention all right; but not in a good way. Evidently the Master has not taught her very much.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/17/2005 5:53:27 AM

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You have no idea what her master has taught her or if your suppositions have any merit. Perhaps you should hold off just a *tiny* bit before passing judgement on them.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/17/2005 8:47:24 PM

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I will tell you that W/we have been in this relationship together for almost 5 years and the other slave and Master have been together over 2 years. So it is not our first moving in together it is just our first home of our own.
No I did not want to be the center of attention, thank you. I only wanted to do something about what Master has already mentioned.
Thank you stef for saying what I thought, but not beling as blunt as my thoughts.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/18/2005 8:33:54 AM

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Ok, here's an idea. Instead of collaring, find or create something that represents the bond that you all have and the 3 of you can choose the location for it in your new home. Sort of a symbolic cornerstone.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/18/2005 9:03:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: luvdragonx

Ok, here's an idea. Instead of collaring, find or create something that represents the bond that you all have and the 3 of you can choose the location for it in your new home. Sort of a symbolic cornerstone.

I considered suggesting something like that but, as picky as I am about decorating and furniture, if someone did that to me I'd be really annoyed. Unless it's your room and your space, and until a regular decorating routine is established, I'd say no to that one.

Again, why not a surprise dinner and movie? No one wants to sit around the house with boxes just everywhere after a really long day of moving.

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RE: Collaring ceremonies for Poly - 8/18/2005 9:18:47 AM

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If you had kids, you might think differently, lol.

I'm really picky about what goes in my house. I have an affinity for all things oceanic and my decor reflects that. I have a nice collection of blue glass items on 3 glass shelves mounted in a reach through. I spent a lot of time arranging the pieces so that it was in the most aesthetically pleasing configuration.

When I was all done my son comes home from school with a 9-inch plaster dragon that he made and painted himself. He asks if he could put it on the shelf. Of course he can.

My daughter came home from school with a clay thing that she painted and initialed by herself. She asked if it could go on the shelf. Of course it did.

Neither of those objects has anything to do with the intended contents of the shelf or the theme of the rooms, but because my kids, my dear-ones, my loves, made them and brought them home with pride, on the shelf they'll stay.

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