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Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:20:25 AM   
squeak


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Status: offline 		How does one go about respectfully telling someone to fuck off when they keep persisting you? Alot of Dom(me)s contact me just looking to get laid, and it gets really old, really fast. I don't want to be a bitch, but how do you tell them no?
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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:22:16 AM   
Kiaban


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ORIGINAL: squeak

How does one go about respectfully telling someone to fuck off when they keep persisting you? Alot of Dom(me)s contact me just looking to get laid, and it gets really old, really fast. I don't want to be a bitch, but how do you tell them no?

Well there is the good ol' fashion 'no'
as well as I believe a block or ignore feature if they don't get it right the first time.
=)

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:24:15 AM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		If they cannot take a polite "no" for an answer then in all likely hood they are trolls anyway.
Report them to whatever e-group they are in. block their e-mail or tell them you will post THEIR e-mail address on as many forum groups you can.


Or maybe a a good sturdy baseball bat would help..

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:25:07 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Say no thanks if you want, then either block them or don't respond further.

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:29:12 AM   
squeak


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Status: offline 		3 replies in 5 minutes, that's awesome. =)

I guess I have a hard time telling people no for whatever reason. Like I feel guilty that I don't want to talk to them, or something...

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:31:03 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		If you cannot tell people no then ignore them. Many block people. Although I think it is much funner to watch them squirm. If you don't block them you can see just how desperate they will become.


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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:34:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: squeak

3 replies in 5 minutes, that's awesome. =)

I guess I have a hard time telling people no for whatever reason. Like I feel guilty that I don't want to talk to them, or something...

That's what consent is all about- if you don't feel free to say no, then how you can mean it when you say yes?

It's a tough skill to learn, but an important one to function as a healthy adult.

Otherwise what choice do you have but to become frustrated, controlled by everyone's whim, and guilty over making the right choice?

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 11:02:26 AM   
squeak


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Status: offline 		I guess it's a self esteem issue, if anything. While I'm a strong person in the Vanilla world, when it comes to being hit on in the BDSM standpoint, I have this underlining sunconcious nagging that I'm somehow less of a submissive if I tell a Dominant no...

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 11:36:51 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		That's an understandable and common issue to have. But read above on consent. In order to be fulfilled, you have to know what will and will not work for you. Unless you are going to be fulfilled by following whatever any dominant tells you at all times (which to me would just be dizzying to say the least), then you are going to have to become comfortable saying no.

Submission is generally about a specific relationship with a specific person. This person may then tell you to submit in certain ways to others, but that depends on the person. In order to form a strong relationship, you must be a strong person. This doesn't mean you have to look for bar fights or prove yourself, it just means that you have to be comfortable in who you are and what you want, and NOT settle for less.

Trust me, far and wide doms prefer submissives who have the strength and will to say no when they need to.

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 11:50:38 AM   
Lepidoptera


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Status: offline 		I had one guy create another account (so he said) soley so he could send me more and more one liners to my account. I never dignified any the messages with a reply.

Don't Doms realize how PATHETIC it makes them look? I would sooner be dommed by them than I would by a sissy (no offense to sissies).

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 3:17:30 PM   
cellogrrlMK


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ORIGINAL: sub4hire

If you cannot tell people no then ignore them. Many block people. Although I think it is much funner to watch them squirm. If you don't block them you can see just how desperate they will become.



LMAO!!!! So true! Basically what I do is start out polite, then if they become assholes I tell them in no uncertain terms to fuck off, block them, and Master then has the choice of whether he wants to bother writing to them or not. I always ask him to wait until I've gotten to the blocking point, since I am trying to be polite. He sees everything anyway and lets me do what I feel is right... nice to be trusted like that!

cello

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 3:53:14 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

How does one go about respectfully telling someone to fuck off when they keep persisting you? Alot of Dom(me)s contact me just looking to get laid, and it gets really old, really fast. I don't want to be a bitch, but how do you tell them no?


Block them.

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 9:32:01 PM   
ModeratorEight


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ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

If they cannot take a polite "no" for an answer then in all likely hood they are trolls anyway.
Report them to whatever e-group they are in. block their e-mail or tell them you will post THEIR e-mail address on as many forum groups you can.


Don't do that or you'll all get banned! Just use "block user" and forget about it.

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 5/31/2005 10:31:08 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: squeak
How does one go about respectfully telling someone to fuck off when they keep persisting you? Alot of Dom(me)s contact me just looking to get laid, and it gets really old, really fast.

Wondering if you're talking about a different site or chatting on yahoo or action from this site?
You joined one day ago (or is this a different name) and you're getting bombarded like that, and wondering how you already know these dom/mes are just looking to get laid in such short time? You don't seem to have a problem saying fuck off here, why not to the people you don't know or want?? M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 6/1/2005 11:17:00 AM >

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 6/1/2005 4:35:30 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		I'm with Cello on this one, I start out politely wishing them well in their search (after reading their profile and finding something to comment on) then if they persist my BS alarm goes off and i blast um. funny how the trolls dont scream Switch and keep comming back for more...........

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 6/1/2005 7:40:33 AM   
cellogrrlMK


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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 6/1/2005 8:50:22 AM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lepidoptera

I had one guy create another account (so he said) soley so he could send me more and more one liners to my account. I never dignified any the messages with a reply.

Don't Doms realize how PATHETIC it makes them look? I would sooner be dommed by them than I would by a sissy (no offense to sissies).


Don't you think that is an indication of a wannabe Dom/me? To the Op, I don't think you have to worry about these being Doms and hurting their feelings, and if they are real, who cares?? Tell them NO, and BLOCK!!! I know some have said watch them squirm, but, (only in IMO) I have more important stuff to deal with, and I would rather be reading emails from possibles, than time wasters...

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RE: Battling off the unwanted troll-like advances.... - 6/1/2005 1:25:12 PM   
DesertRat


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Status: offline 		A polite "no" should suffice. If he persists, then just block him. Being a submissive doesn't mean you have to waste time dealing with trolls. That's my opinion, anyway.

Bob

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