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Basic - 10/13/2005 10:09:49 PM

married_geeta

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I have been in the D/s lifestyle for sometime but I am very new to the poly lifestyle. Actually I have ever practiced it.

I was curious what is it all bout?

Can anyone enligthen me?

Geeta

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RE: Basic - 10/13/2005 10:14:13 PM

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You ask a very tough question. Being poly is very much what you make of it. You can completely screw it up with dishonesty, or you can make it something really beautiful. Know and respect your limits, and also respect those of your partner. That will keep you out of trouble :)

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RE: Basic - 10/13/2005 10:22:12 PM

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Ahhhhh.........that's a huge question. Poly (as I understand and live it) is having 'many-loves'. Instead of the typical exclusive pairing of two people, poly unions include additional people in the relationship. Most of the poly practicing people I know believe in intimate bonding of each member of the poly union that extends beyond mere physical play.

I know that I am capable of loving more than one person without detriment to my husband. I know that he can love someone else without taking away from me. For us, polyamory works because we trust each other completely, and that is the biggest hurdle I've had to deal with.

I can only tell you about my experience with poly and how I feel about it. There are many others here who have years of experience to share. Welcome to the boards

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RE: Basic - 10/14/2005 5:50:45 AM

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My definition of poly is having multiple intimate personal relationships simultaneously.

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RE: Basic - 10/15/2005 4:01:08 AM

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Thanks for your response!

But is there a minimum number greater than 3 need for making a Poly family relationship? Does a poly family need to have a Dom and Domme both or more than one Dom always?

Geeta

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RE: Basic - 10/15/2005 8:01:18 AM

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This will blow you away - some poly families are VANILLA!! Also, you can be SINGLE and still be poly in interests and mindset! We are 3, and definitely a poly family - let your mind roam about and come up with any and all configurations possible - and I guarantee, someone somewhere is living that poly life.

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RE: Basic - 10/15/2005 8:08:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: married_geeta

Thanks for your response!

But is there a minimum number greater than 3 need for making a Poly family relationship? Does a poly family need to have a Dom and Domme both or more than one Dom always?

Geeta

If you can imagine a situation- it exists. There's no rules or limits.

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RE: Basic - 10/16/2005 10:58:12 AM

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Any intimate relationship including more than 2 people is usually considered as fitting into the "poly" mold. Some folks will separate out "poly" from "swingers", on the basis that poly is about long-term relationships that -may-, but do not necessarily -have- to include sex, and typically includes everyone involved knowing about everyone else (which is what separates poly from having an affair, where typically, at least ONE member of the group doesn't know about at least one -other- member of the group)... and swinging is, typically, about casual, primarily sexual encounters (though again, it is typical for swinging individuals to be completely honest about their participation, and also common for swingers to participate as a couple if they are already coupled). So here's a "cut to the chase"

Basically, polyamory is any committed relationship that includes 3 or more people in a relationship.

BDSM has nothing to do with poly per se. It is a separately discussed feature of -some- relationships, although a lot of poly relationships do get started because one partner in a monogamous couple is interested in BDSM and the other isn't, so they agree to open their relationship so that the partner who is interested in BDSM can get what xhe needs without the other partner being compelled.

In some poly households, it isn't even necessary that all the members even -live- together all of the time. We have members in different parts of the country so that they can meet obligations to work or to blood family. They are still a part of our household, even though they have to be away for long periods of time.

So basically, as long as there are more than 2 of you in the relationship, it is poly.

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ORIGINAL: married_geeta

Thanks for your response!

But is there a minimum number greater than 3 need for making a Poly family relationship? Does a poly family need to have a Dom and Domme both or more than one Dom always?

Geeta

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RE: Basic - 10/16/2005 11:59:48 AM

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So basically, as long as there are more than 2 of you in the relationship, it is poly.

I'd add to this, though - I don't believe it's necessary for all to be in a relationship with one another in order for it to be poly.

So, while I agree with your definition, I'd add "or one person is in relationship with more than one other, and all know about one another."

Of course - there are lots and lots and lots of variations :)

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RE: Basic - 10/18/2005 5:29:57 PM

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geeta,

by diffinition poly is more then two, so three min is the magic number.
There need not be a D involved as I have known a household of 4 subs 3 f and 1 m that works well.

Personally I think if is best to review the subject with your D and get his input.

CP

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