Attention with Compassion not "Things"
Meeting the Needs of a slave successfully
There are many things that a slave needs. Some think
that a slave has no needs; that once a slave becomes
owned it has all it will ever need. I beg to differ and
I have found in My experience Owning Lifelong slaves
and practicing concensual slavery that there are several
things a slave needs.
Communication… A slave needs to be able to communicate
with their Owner and to have their Owner communicate and
actively listen to them. A slave needs to feel as if what
they have to say has meaning, and is important with value
even if it is simply to say "yes Master/Mistress".
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Service… A slave is like a well-made tool, to be used well.
If a tool is allowed to set in a box somewhere unattended
it will rust and become unuseable. A slave must be allowed
to serve constantly in order to sharpen their skills and
gain experience even if it is to sit perfectly still covered with
a sheet in the corner of a room, as a Owner might desire or
purrr at the foot of the Owner their head being caressed by
the Owners feet.
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Purpose… As with any living being a slave needs to have a
purpose, a reason for his or her existence and servitude and
being Owned and used fullfills this purpose of any slaves need.
Totally serving anothers needs fills the heart and mind of the
slave.
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Structure… A slave needs to be surrounded by structure,
order, and discipline. Chaos may lead to change and variety,
but within the life of a slave it leads to fear and uncertainty
Fluid continuity brings happy and sincere servitude. Im asked
constantly by others how Im able to keep multiple slaves in
servitude and this one item I feel is what keeps My slaves
where they are and thats their structure and security in
knowing it will always be there for them be it their suroundings
and simple daily care or their Ownership and My need of such.
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Appreciation… A slave needs to know their efforts are
appreciated and that they are of need. If a slave goes without
this form of support then the self-esteem of the slave becomes
questionable and hence their performance will suffer miserably.
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Discipline… A slave expects and needs discipline.This does not
mean taking a strap to a slave if it forgets to end a sentence
with yes Master/Mistress. It means the slave must know what
is expected of it and know what is unacceptable and understand
the consequences of any deviation of behavior or action.The
worst discipline you can bestow on a slave is to not allow them
to serve or to ignore their daily accomplishments or reward
another for their actions.
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Safety… A slave must know they are safe. I may hurt My
slaves but I will never harm them. A slave has the right to
expect a safe alternate type of healthy environment both
physically and emotionally even if these items are tested
and scened with in a positive end result for both the Giver
and reciever.
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Respect… A slave must understand respect and in turn
be treated with respect due a posession. As an individual
everyone deserves some respect and as a slave this is
no different but simply different in how it is applied and
inplied. Just as the Owner requires a certain amount
of respect so therefore does the slave earn it in its acts.
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Honesty… A slave has the right to expect their owner
to always be fully and totally honest with them. To tell
a lie is not only a dishonorable act but it also shreds the
fine fabric of trust that is formed between a slave and
its Owner.
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Trust… A slave must be able to trust their Owner period.
This is achieved with time, knowledge and experience.
Trust is something build brick by brick, but when that
trust is broken those bricks crumble and become dust
and will not support any alternate structured relationship.
These are the things Ive found a slave needs.
You notice nowhere did I state a slave needs a collar,
a contract, scening, sex or money. However these are
items that could be a reward for servitude well done,
or not.
A collar is a symbol, it may represent Ownership but
there is no collar in the world that can replace trust
or safety and no differant then a wedding ring on a
finger. Hence while it may be a symbol cherished
by any who proudly wears their Owner's symbol, or
a Owner proud to have it displayed on Their posession
it is a want and desire and not a need that can replace
trust and safety.
A contract is no more than a piece of paper, and a
agreement made between individuals based on a
common goal. Its value can mean just as much as the
largest diamond in the world or the smallest grain of
sand on the earth. There is no contract that can keep a
slave from leaving anymore then a wedding certificate
that can keep a wedded mate when they feel they
are not needed or wanted anymore in the relationship.
Sceneing is something done for the entertainment of
one or more parties involved. Some enjoy it and some
do not. Never the less sceneing is no more important
than buying a pretty new dress for the club or getting
the latest Mistress STEEL book. It is a luxury or a reward
and it is not a need.
Sex like Sceneing may or may not be present within a
relationship.There are slaves that are specifically trained
to be of sexual service however, not all slaves are maintained
or used for sexual reasons and in most cases sex is not
a factor in a slave or Owners service. Sex is option, not a need.
Money is irrelevant, while it does ease the mind of an individual.
Money will not ease the mind of a slave; it is not about money
it is about purpose and service, and appreciation and money is
a item that the Owner must tend to and control. Money
cannot buy pride or simple joy or love, it can only buy things.
So as you can see the needs of a slave are not object
nowhere in the above list did I state a slave needs to be well
dressed, there are many Owners who don't allow the slave
to wear clothing at all.
Nowhere does it state that a slave needs their own room,
a slave should be honored if they are given the privilege
to sleep at the foot of the Owners bed.
It doesn't state that the slave needs to go tanning or get a
manicure or go to the latest leather blackkers contest once a
month. These things are rewards not needs.
It doesn't state that a slave needs to be able to use the
computer, watch TV or play video games either, again these
are rewards not needs, and again these are mere things…
nothing can make a slave feel better than a simple acknowledgement.
For the Owner to sit the slave down and say, "With all the work
you have done today getting ready for Me, I honestly don't know
what I would do without you." This simple statement will mean
more to a slave than anything that can be purchased with money.
While they are quite simple, a slave does indeed have needs,
and it is for the benefit of the Owner to remember this and
take care of all the slave's needs and not wants to keep Their
posession.JMO
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